Something I’ve found very helpful to combat anxiety and negativity is a concept called mindfulness. Mindfulness is acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, and then doing something to help process the emotion, thought or feeling.
I use this in several ways. If I’m feeling resentful towards someone, I take a minute and try to figure out why this is, and then I try to change my attitude. I read somewhere that resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I’ve found this to be true. Resentment is not compatible with good mental health.
I also use this when I have an anxiety attack. My anxiety attacks always have some sort of physical aspect, so I try to accept these physical symptoms (struggle to breathe, dizziness, coughing, whatever) and then remind myself that 99.9% of the time they will go away if I stop panicking. After I’m calm, I then try to determine what exactly caused the anxiety. For example, traveling triggers anxiety in me because following my daily schedule makes me feel safe. It is also a trigger for me because I feel as if I have to be on my best behavior because I’m seeing people I only see once or twice a year. To combat this stressful thought pattern, I create a little mantra. For example, something like, people’s opinions don’t define me, or changes of plan aren’t dangerous.
This concept has truly changed my life. Mindfulness keeps my anxiety from becoming debilitating and it also helps me not dwell on negative feelings. I have a choice about which thoughts to invite in and which ones to shut out.